1) De-escalate strong and disruptive feelings
2) Acknowledge each other and differing perspectives
3) Take on a listening role with each other
4) Discuss underlying issues, fears, and feelings
5) Define the problem
6) Assert needs and wants specifically and clearly
7) Remain flexible as you brainstorm options
8) Remain calm and respectful at any impasses
9) Come to an intentional agreement that works
10) Determine what each partner can do in the future should the issue surface again
The above steps were adapted from the following resources below.
Conflict Resolution - Conflict Management - Conflict Management for Couples - Managing Conflict in Marriage - Steps to Conflict Management